Friday, July 25, 2014
Thursday, July 24, 2014
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Beauty and the Bipolar. My Grandmother and Me.
This lovely picture is circa 1930 of a young Black girl who lived in Quincy, Florida.
She had the entire world to discover. She loved to sing, dance and worship God in her church. She trained as a nurse in school for ~2 years until she married her husband.
From that point, her life became devoted to God, her husband and her children.
She had 9 children.
There were times where this Black family could not make ends meet. Where the husband had to travel the roads in the United States to make money. There were times that there was little food and somehow by magic she was able to create a full course meal.
Then her husband gained stable employment with a very notable position, and eventually, the woman returned to college and got her bachelor's degree in education. It was after her last child was out of diapers. Then, she taught in the local elementary school.
The children who were in her class came from homes were the parents were worse off than her own family. By some mechanism, the kids in her class excelled. The children are now adults today, and they have fond memories of the teacher.
Then the grandchildren were being born, from the second oldest daughter to the first oldest son, and then the second oldest son, and more. Some of the grandchildren grew up near their grandmother and remembered how she loved them. It was with a strong 1930's-style of discipline. The grandchildren who grew far from their grandmother, did not quite understand her mentality until they got older.
I was one of the grandchildren that grew up far from my grandmother.
What was so remarkable about this woman? She was not famous. She was very opinionated. She sometimes appeared to be conceited. What was she about?
GRANDMOTHER was resilient in spite of it all...
She took the good with the bad. She prayed on it. The Bible was her reference book for all her decisions. Over time, she found her voice, and she expressed it with a pleasant astuteness. Her behavior for her generation was like that of Coretta Scott King. In fact she met her... Resolute, stylish, and inside toughness. When microaggressions occurred, she outmaneuver them like on the TV show, "Wipe Out" easily surpassing that obstacle course. People would say all kinds of mean things to her, and she should raise her head with pride and state quietly. "They talked about Jesus Christ, and you saw what they did to Him."
Living in the South, in the midst of white supremacy and overt racists, she recalls an incident when she returned home and was walking on a dirt road, when some white teenage boys in a beat up truck sped up to run her over to knock her off the road. She said if she did not jump out of the way, she would have been hit. She broke her coccyx tailbone, the last bone in her vertabral column when she jumped. I think that hurt her more emotionally as those were her experiences with racism, than the actually pain of breaking her tailbone.
Her education is what propelled her for debate. When she was a teenager, she could argue her points with logical precision. But during that time of the Depression, women, especially Black Women had little or no agency to move beyond their dreams. In 1934, she got married and learned a home was hard to keep without God driving the order. And then somehow, that system worked for my grandparents. How it worked, I am learning snippets from sources.
The reality is, it was no picnic with sunshine for my grandparents. Their forged in the might of God with fortitude to make choices. I believe both of them were very intelligent, but they had to be wise to survive. My grandfather loved the Bible as much, but he knew how to speak eloquently with his commanding voice. My grandmother was more reserved, but you HEARD her words.
When I became a young adult, I had a chance to spend a lot of time with my grandparents. I did not grow up around them. I took every opportunity to leave Spelman on breaks and visit them in Daytona Beach. I would discuss ideas about life and for some reason, they would hear me talk and tell me things. I do know, I would not have graduated from Spelman if I did not visit my grandparents. My grandfather once told me his expectations of me graduating from college and for some reason that resonated with me more than my parents telling me. My grandmother told me how get through college and graduate school through the Lord using chapter and verse.
As I got older, I watched my grandmother's mannerisms, style and grace. They were not like my parents or my parents' friends. They were not like the stereotypes on television. No one can fathom a woman like my grandmother. She was too illustrious, too glamorous, and way too fabulous for simple character study of a storyline that television can convey.
When she would visit my parents, she would love to shop for anything in the mall. She would go to Neiman Marcus and test the pricey lotions. The snooty counter woman would remark with a microaggression. "You know, that's blah blah blah designer, it is very-very expensive..."
My grandmother would happily reply. "Oh? Give me some more!"
Very few of my friends had elder women like that that they respected.
I was fortunate to have her prominent in my early adult life. I see that today's Black women are finding their voice to achieve their dreams and I think that is amazing. While I am of a different generation from many of these Black women where my generation barely had a voice, we all now, have a lot of agency. In my opinion, the younger women have that WOW factor. However, I'm saddened to read their bitter tone and while I catch myself with those feels, I'm amazed they can say it succinctly but they offer little recourse from the pain. I wonder about the strides of these women throughout their lives. Life is already tought and to put on a happy face feels stupid. I get these young women are tired of cowtowing, yet, one can catch more flies with honey than with salt as the old adage says. However, is this mode of thinking for the battle or for the war? Because if it is only for the battle, then ranting on a blog to use one's powerful voice to being enraged to signify one's rage is short-lived and temporary, and is not a great strategy for winning this war. Of course, that assumes if there is a war and if there should be one, not to mention that is a very male dominated construct.
I just go back wondering what my grandmother would say about all of this... She would say James 3:9-12:
Out of all the people who can work wonders on me without any formal degrees in psychiatry or psychology, my grandmother calmed me when I was at my worst bipolar mental stay.
Then I have to remember one of her favorite Bible verses was Proverbs 3:5:
People around me can bash me, demean me, destroy me and hate me. But in the end, it is just me and they cannot touch that, because it belongs to God.
I will continue living my life by the mere emulation of her, until I die.
She had the entire world to discover. She loved to sing, dance and worship God in her church. She trained as a nurse in school for ~2 years until she married her husband.
From that point, her life became devoted to God, her husband and her children.
She had 9 children.
There were times where this Black family could not make ends meet. Where the husband had to travel the roads in the United States to make money. There were times that there was little food and somehow by magic she was able to create a full course meal.
Then her husband gained stable employment with a very notable position, and eventually, the woman returned to college and got her bachelor's degree in education. It was after her last child was out of diapers. Then, she taught in the local elementary school.
The children who were in her class came from homes were the parents were worse off than her own family. By some mechanism, the kids in her class excelled. The children are now adults today, and they have fond memories of the teacher.
Then the grandchildren were being born, from the second oldest daughter to the first oldest son, and then the second oldest son, and more. Some of the grandchildren grew up near their grandmother and remembered how she loved them. It was with a strong 1930's-style of discipline. The grandchildren who grew far from their grandmother, did not quite understand her mentality until they got older.
I was one of the grandchildren that grew up far from my grandmother.
What was so remarkable about this woman? She was not famous. She was very opinionated. She sometimes appeared to be conceited. What was she about?
GRANDMOTHER was resilient in spite of it all...
She took the good with the bad. She prayed on it. The Bible was her reference book for all her decisions. Over time, she found her voice, and she expressed it with a pleasant astuteness. Her behavior for her generation was like that of Coretta Scott King. In fact she met her... Resolute, stylish, and inside toughness. When microaggressions occurred, she outmaneuver them like on the TV show, "Wipe Out" easily surpassing that obstacle course. People would say all kinds of mean things to her, and she should raise her head with pride and state quietly. "They talked about Jesus Christ, and you saw what they did to Him."
Living in the South, in the midst of white supremacy and overt racists, she recalls an incident when she returned home and was walking on a dirt road, when some white teenage boys in a beat up truck sped up to run her over to knock her off the road. She said if she did not jump out of the way, she would have been hit. She broke her coccyx tailbone, the last bone in her vertabral column when she jumped. I think that hurt her more emotionally as those were her experiences with racism, than the actually pain of breaking her tailbone.
Her education is what propelled her for debate. When she was a teenager, she could argue her points with logical precision. But during that time of the Depression, women, especially Black Women had little or no agency to move beyond their dreams. In 1934, she got married and learned a home was hard to keep without God driving the order. And then somehow, that system worked for my grandparents. How it worked, I am learning snippets from sources.
The reality is, it was no picnic with sunshine for my grandparents. Their forged in the might of God with fortitude to make choices. I believe both of them were very intelligent, but they had to be wise to survive. My grandfather loved the Bible as much, but he knew how to speak eloquently with his commanding voice. My grandmother was more reserved, but you HEARD her words.
When I became a young adult, I had a chance to spend a lot of time with my grandparents. I did not grow up around them. I took every opportunity to leave Spelman on breaks and visit them in Daytona Beach. I would discuss ideas about life and for some reason, they would hear me talk and tell me things. I do know, I would not have graduated from Spelman if I did not visit my grandparents. My grandfather once told me his expectations of me graduating from college and for some reason that resonated with me more than my parents telling me. My grandmother told me how get through college and graduate school through the Lord using chapter and verse.
As I got older, I watched my grandmother's mannerisms, style and grace. They were not like my parents or my parents' friends. They were not like the stereotypes on television. No one can fathom a woman like my grandmother. She was too illustrious, too glamorous, and way too fabulous for simple character study of a storyline that television can convey.
When she would visit my parents, she would love to shop for anything in the mall. She would go to Neiman Marcus and test the pricey lotions. The snooty counter woman would remark with a microaggression. "You know, that's blah blah blah designer, it is very-very expensive..."
My grandmother would happily reply. "Oh? Give me some more!"
Very few of my friends had elder women like that that they respected.
I was fortunate to have her prominent in my early adult life. I see that today's Black women are finding their voice to achieve their dreams and I think that is amazing. While I am of a different generation from many of these Black women where my generation barely had a voice, we all now, have a lot of agency. In my opinion, the younger women have that WOW factor. However, I'm saddened to read their bitter tone and while I catch myself with those feels, I'm amazed they can say it succinctly but they offer little recourse from the pain. I wonder about the strides of these women throughout their lives. Life is already tought and to put on a happy face feels stupid. I get these young women are tired of cowtowing, yet, one can catch more flies with honey than with salt as the old adage says. However, is this mode of thinking for the battle or for the war? Because if it is only for the battle, then ranting on a blog to use one's powerful voice to being enraged to signify one's rage is short-lived and temporary, and is not a great strategy for winning this war. Of course, that assumes if there is a war and if there should be one, not to mention that is a very male dominated construct.
I just go back wondering what my grandmother would say about all of this... She would say James 3:9-12:
With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.
Out of all the people who can work wonders on me without any formal degrees in psychiatry or psychology, my grandmother calmed me when I was at my worst bipolar mental stay.
Then I have to remember one of her favorite Bible verses was Proverbs 3:5:
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
People around me can bash me, demean me, destroy me and hate me. But in the end, it is just me and they cannot touch that, because it belongs to God.
I will continue living my life by the mere emulation of her, until I die.
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| "Beauty" at 90 years old |
Monday, July 14, 2014
More people have kidney stones because they are dehydrated.
More people are getting kidney stones because they are dehydrated. What can be done? Drink more water! How much depends on what your healthcare provider says. Generally 8 glasses per day or ~1-2 Liters per day. Good water. Clean water. Pure and balanced water.
Water - H2O is quintessential for life. We cannot survive without water. When we fail to consume adequate amounts of water, we suffer. Water = Life. It is the conduit to our soul. So if you have clean water, you are truly blessed and you should drink it. If your water is not clean, that requires experiences beyond the scope of this blog. No offense to those who don't have clean water - I would not know?
As I understand it, it must be boiled, then filtered for potability. As to the process, I do not know. There are Iodine tablets, but they only last so long.
Water as a resource of potability will be lacking in the future. We have not conserved our water. We must find ways to do that.
Saturday, June 28, 2014
Another reason WHY I HATE SEATTLE!
Woman says she accidentally kicked SPD cop who hit her | Local News | The Seattle Times
1) Woman and her "baby daddy" got into a heated argument at a friends house. The daddy left and she followed him. Both had too much to drink. He drove, but she walked to the baby daddy's house.
2) Police were called and an overseer stated someone had to be arrested and go to jail. He picked the woman and rassled her to the backseat where her foot slipped and hit him in the chin. He then punched her in the eye. She was in jail for 4 days and release without being charged.
3) This is PISS POOR news reporting and in HATE BLOGS run by white supremacist groups this story is seen as a "Nigger Whine"...
4) THIS IS WHY I HATE SEATTLE BECAUSE THIS TREATMENT OF BLACK WOMEN IS ABUNDANT AND WOULD NOT FLY IN THE DEEPEST PARTS OF THE SOUTH, EVER!
5) Couples argue and fight and it's not fair. Sure, there are MUCH BETTER WAYS to handle misbehavior as a couple, but without that knowledge, people don't JUST KNOW! Especially if one's upbringing was NOT to argue fairly without raising one's voice -- using one's words. Anger is abundant as is resentment. It takes a long time to learn how to have verbal spats with out the logic fallacy of vehemence.
BUT NOT IN SEATTLE! NO YOU GET ARRESTED IF YOU ARGUE WITH OUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER ABOVE 1 DECIBEL!
^^^^This would be called domestic violence!
Moreover, this is really TONE POLICING... It's what white supremacists do with their privilege to invoke a a choke hold on African American women in Seattle.
Seattle better get a grip of its hate or else it will be cinder blocks...
Don't be scared bigots. Preparation doesn't matter. It is the price that will be paid for the bigotry.
Original Article in case Seattle Times erases it.
Woman Says She Accidentally Kicked SPD Cop Who Hit Her _ Local News _ the Seattle Times
Sunday, June 15, 2014
Thursday, June 12, 2014
I HATE SEATTLE! Another episode...
I've been forced to live in Seattle for 11 years. I've lost my career I have been trained to do, I've lost my support systems, I've lost my friends. I am damn near about to lose my mind and somehow, I keep living for another day.
Seattle SUCKS for Black Women living here. It SUCKS for me and I'm married! I cannot imagine the HELL some Black Women suffer who are single.
It may be a product of where I live, too. I live near Microsoft. The corporation is fine as I do not work there, but the surrounding areas and the people SUCK!
And I've really tried to make the best of it. I've gotten involved. I've done community service. I've tried to build my business in social media and entertainment. I'll do whatever I can to make a positive change to participation!
Then I see this youtube:
And I wonder, how much racist microaggressions must I endure that explains why I HATE SEATTLE!
Seattle SUCKS for Black Women living here. It SUCKS for me and I'm married! I cannot imagine the HELL some Black Women suffer who are single.
It may be a product of where I live, too. I live near Microsoft. The corporation is fine as I do not work there, but the surrounding areas and the people SUCK!
I HATE SEATTLE! I HATE IT! I WOULD NEED A LOT OF MONEY SO I COULD LIVE ANYWHERE ELSE IN THE WORLD THAN TO LIVE IN HELL IN SEATTLE! I HATE IT!
Then I see this youtube:
And I wonder, how much racist microaggressions must I endure that explains why I HATE SEATTLE!
And this is NOT about the guy who teaches this class or even the high school students or the producers of this video. My rant is about ME and MY MENTAL HEALTH that SUFFERS under a oppressive system that I endure while living in the South North Pole!
They said that this class is about the larger community. The fact there are white people TRYING to make it better says something, even to me. And I can admit that mental healthwise, there are things I must overcome in therapy that have nothing to do with bigotry and racism I have endured here in Seattle that I don't in other COUNTRIES, but the people in Seattle are BIGOTS in these nooks and crannies, chiefly where I live and other places.
They have this FUCKED up attitude. That if I was someone in social justice, I'd literally ruin their life just because. I'd obliterate them. Like that butthead fuck that came up to me when I was deciding which movie to go to and told me to get out of line so he can buy his ticket!
They have this FUCKED up attitude. That if I was someone in social justice, I'd literally ruin their life just because. I'd obliterate them. Like that butthead fuck that came up to me when I was deciding which movie to go to and told me to get out of line so he can buy his ticket!
- He wouldn't have done it if we are white
- He damn sure would not have done it if my husband was there
But he thought that I would not physically assault his bitchass when he literally stood by me hovering telling me to get out of the movie ticket line all in my personal space! Who yells at anyone queued up in a movie ticket line? And this crazy man did.
I am nearly 50 years old. I don't do much arguing and fighting lately. In this instance, I did not say a word. I did not raise my fist. He was old and he probably did not have must life in him anyway. I did the RIGHT thing and I did NOT engage him.
The movie ticket seller spoke up in my defense and asked the man to move back. That is the ONLY thing that stopped me from bashing that man.
BUT THIS MAN'S ACTIONS HAPPENS TO ME DAILY! A MICROAGGRESSION I ENDURE IN SEATTLE! A HATE I SUFFER IN SEATTLE DAILY!
Assholes who think they can speak to me. Assholes who think they can speak to me any kind of way. And they're lucky I don't pop off. Because the last time I did, the ASSHOLE felt he should call the police.
I'm not conniving, and "too whom the gods wish to destroy, they must first make them angry..." So if I kept my cool, and sneered, these ASSHOLES still will call the police! And who are the police going to listen to? Me a "young-looking" somewhat overweight Black Woman accused of assault? Or an old sickly white man being an asshole?
I'm not conniving, and "too whom the gods wish to destroy, they must first make them angry..." So if I kept my cool, and sneered, these ASSHOLES still will call the police! And who are the police going to listen to? Me a "young-looking" somewhat overweight Black Woman accused of assault? Or an old sickly white man being an asshole?
Me.
SO FUCK YOU SEATTLE! THAT'S WHY I HATE YOU!
It's like FUCK my doctorate education. FUCK my experience traveling around the world with my husband, and FUCK my family!
It's like FUCK my doctorate education. FUCK my experience traveling around the world with my husband, and FUCK my family!
If you are a Black Woman in SEATTLE, married or not, educated or not; an ASSHOLE WHITE PERSON can accuse you of bullshit and the police won't give a shit about you, even if you're out of control or if you're not.
It's like Orange Is The New Black here... Don't live here.
THAT'S WHY I HATE SEATTLE!
Friday, June 6, 2014
Do Nice Black Guys Deserve To Be Friend Zoned?
Ok. So I guess I have a VERY different view of this meme...
I've dated the "HOT BLACK Males" -- the ones you want...
Do you know what you have to DO to KEEP "HOT BLACK Male" like that? SACRIFICE ALL YOUR MORALS and I literally mean ANY integrity you have inside yourself to have a "HOT BLACK Male".
What type of male are we talking about?
- Professional athletes.
- Ultra Rich Black men who can buy serious money type stuff: houses, yachts, lavish Great Gatsby type parties.
- Major politicians with $1000+ plate dinners where you meet dignitaries.
I've dated my share - let me make this clear, I had a chance to be flown somewhere where this guy had my formal dress in order to shake the hands of the King and Queen of Sweden. I said, "No." because that scared the shit out of me:
- My dad taught me: NEVER let a man who is not your husband buy you clothes;
- I only met this guy ONCE and he was offering me this and I checked his background seriously, so he wasn't bullshitting on his capabilities.
- I knew he wanted arm-candy and when I was young, I was rather attractive, so what?
- Once you let a man that you are dating paying for things like your lifestyle and you're not married to him or committed exclusive or something, you RISK your autonomy - i.e. you don't get input anymore and I can get caught up into that easily - like an addict. So I had stopgap measurements in place. Besides, how did I know he wasn't lying? He had not PROVED to me he was a "nice guy", yet...
I was never into rappers and actors - that life was after my time and seriously not my taste - I was more into production folks: yes, the ones who are the Executives the movies - they pay to make them.
When I see this meme, I think to myself that after being shitted up on by these "HOT Black Males" at a time in my life I needed someone the most -- where I was in the hospital emergency room by myself with a seizure and I had to name a "friend" - these "HOT BLACK Males" you fantasize about disappeared...
The "nice guy" was there for me... The nice guy helped me get through one of the toughest times my life.
You can think all you want about this:
- He's funny looking
- Awkward
- Boring
- Creepy weird
- Lacks conversation
- A turn off
You can discount these type a guys, but these type of guys WILL LOVE you if that's what you want... These type of guys WILL do EVERYTHING in their power to make YOU HAPPY!
NICE guys do PROVE why they are nice and you will know and if you don't want that, be HONEST with yourself and say, that's not what you want... It's okay to NOT have a nice guy.
In fact you can TELL a nice guy that you do want a roughneck thug (in the bedroom) -- of course that's a "real roleplay" you'd have to rock out on... But hey "50 Shades"!
How do I know?
I'm Dr. G M.-S. and I've been married for 11 years... And I just got back from a dream trip in Australia with my husband...
Embrace your inner nerd girl. Ain't nothing wrong with that. And the funny thing is,
- You can train them...
- They're very smart and fast learners.
- FAST LEARNERS on what you REALLY LIKE AND WANT!
- EXCELLENT ORAL SKILLS...
- GREAT ARTICULATION!
- They are handymen... You'd have to understand that.
;)
Thursday, May 29, 2014
My Review of "Change My Race" - Documentary about Australian-#Asians
From Australia's SBS by Anna Choy
Change My Race (Part 1) by Sablicious
Anna Choy creates a documentary about being Asian in Australia and what is considered beautiful under a European ideal. Overall, the documentary is intriguing. Background is that Anna Choy herself is "biracial" - her mother is Caucasian, her father is Chinese and she grew up in Australia. She is married/partnered and has a child.
It sounded like she was jaded by her "Asian" characteristics. What is refreshing is seeing other races besides mine discuss racial politics. The documentary opens with a Caucasian woman from a local university, Dr. Meredith Jones.
But travels to the Asian Cosmetic Surgery Capital of the world in South Korea. They had a listing of all services including, Orthognactic procedure. One doctor, Dr. Joo Kwon does angle resection for a "baby face". That is one does not do well to take care of themselves, they are being "ugly by choice". A lot of people are doing "face smashing". It is a more attractive person, but less Asian.
Moving back to Australia, several Asian women and girls were interviewed on their ideas about cosmetic surgery. Why destroy functional attractive faces. Psychologist Roberta Honigman says there is a nexus between medicine and culture. Doctors enable peopel who feel they need to "fix" the aesthetics of their bodies - i.e. surgery is not medical necessary. She stated that in the 1910s-1920s in America, Jewish and Irish immigrants would use these procedures to be a part of the culture. Immigrants want to help children for maximum opportunity.
Growing up Asian in a predominantly White communities, Asians are not expecting the faces they see - the eyes, nose and in some ways mouth.
Only similarity to what we do as African Americans is bleaching cream.
Many Asian Australians feel Australian, but don't at time. They still feel like foreigners.
Chloe Munoz who is a modeling casting agent says White Women from Australia would sell more magazines on covers.
More lighter skin is a status of wealth. Not working in the fields. It is ideal human, people of color are a variation of human.
Beauty works on a subconscious level.
Ruby Hamad as a feminist got plastic surgery on her nose to look less Arab or Middle Eastern. Did she choose to grow up into an environment that was not hers with that influence?
We no longer look like our parents children and your children will not look like you.
The producer for this show was Julia Redwood.
What I thought about the documentary content? I felt sad. My thoughts are that Asians are stronger than that. They are better people than they give themselves credit to do. They survive by placating white people, but they never really will be able to completely do it. From my point of view, many various countries in Asia are outmaneuvering America and other countries with their capital enterprises.
Asian women do not have to aspire looking more White to be attractive. Where is that pressure coming from? In the documentary, it was said it was from the family to give them opportunity. But I don't believe that, I think it comes from men. It is a "misogyno-jeune" like "misogynoir" but from Asian men. Men pedestalized Blonde Hair-Blue Eyed women. And since the stereotype of Asian women are as subservient, have they placated their men? I don't know? I know Black women won't placate their men worth a damn. At the same time, our relationships are lacking.
However, no one can dictate how another person feels about their race or ethnic group. That person needs to define it for themselves.
Change My Race (Part 1) by Sablicious
Anna Choy creates a documentary about being Asian in Australia and what is considered beautiful under a European ideal. Overall, the documentary is intriguing. Background is that Anna Choy herself is "biracial" - her mother is Caucasian, her father is Chinese and she grew up in Australia. She is married/partnered and has a child.
It sounded like she was jaded by her "Asian" characteristics. What is refreshing is seeing other races besides mine discuss racial politics. The documentary opens with a Caucasian woman from a local university, Dr. Meredith Jones.
But travels to the Asian Cosmetic Surgery Capital of the world in South Korea. They had a listing of all services including, Orthognactic procedure. One doctor, Dr. Joo Kwon does angle resection for a "baby face". That is one does not do well to take care of themselves, they are being "ugly by choice". A lot of people are doing "face smashing". It is a more attractive person, but less Asian.
Moving back to Australia, several Asian women and girls were interviewed on their ideas about cosmetic surgery. Why destroy functional attractive faces. Psychologist Roberta Honigman says there is a nexus between medicine and culture. Doctors enable peopel who feel they need to "fix" the aesthetics of their bodies - i.e. surgery is not medical necessary. She stated that in the 1910s-1920s in America, Jewish and Irish immigrants would use these procedures to be a part of the culture. Immigrants want to help children for maximum opportunity.
Growing up Asian in a predominantly White communities, Asians are not expecting the faces they see - the eyes, nose and in some ways mouth.
Only similarity to what we do as African Americans is bleaching cream.
Many Asian Australians feel Australian, but don't at time. They still feel like foreigners.
Chloe Munoz who is a modeling casting agent says White Women from Australia would sell more magazines on covers.
More lighter skin is a status of wealth. Not working in the fields. It is ideal human, people of color are a variation of human.
Beauty works on a subconscious level.
Ruby Hamad as a feminist got plastic surgery on her nose to look less Arab or Middle Eastern. Did she choose to grow up into an environment that was not hers with that influence?
We no longer look like our parents children and your children will not look like you.
The producer for this show was Julia Redwood.
What I thought about the documentary content? I felt sad. My thoughts are that Asians are stronger than that. They are better people than they give themselves credit to do. They survive by placating white people, but they never really will be able to completely do it. From my point of view, many various countries in Asia are outmaneuvering America and other countries with their capital enterprises.
Asian women do not have to aspire looking more White to be attractive. Where is that pressure coming from? In the documentary, it was said it was from the family to give them opportunity. But I don't believe that, I think it comes from men. It is a "misogyno-jeune" like "misogynoir" but from Asian men. Men pedestalized Blonde Hair-Blue Eyed women. And since the stereotype of Asian women are as subservient, have they placated their men? I don't know? I know Black women won't placate their men worth a damn. At the same time, our relationships are lacking.
However, no one can dictate how another person feels about their race or ethnic group. That person needs to define it for themselves.
Wednesday, March 26, 2014
Rape for Profit by Jada Pinkett Smith - Sex Trafficking #Seattle
Rape For Profit - Trailer from RapeForProfitFilm on Vimeo.
Seattle may seem benign and seem liberal areas on the United States, but men bash women here. Men stranglehold women and rape them. The insult is at 14 years old in age. A girl is coming to grips of being a woman (by menstruation), being a sexual being (generally liking a boy) to being responsible (by succeeding in school). When a girl is raped, all that kind of positive movement forward is dispelled.
The very soul of a girl is taken from her. Her rage and ire is turned inward. It does not come out in good ways.
I know... I've been there before...
And what got me out is the Tantra - the art of conscious loving. It brought me to loving me, for the wondrous spirit I am. No condemnation, no destruction, no judgment. How to move with love through art and thought, in deed, and compassionate action. It is why the Isle Sanctuary exists. Why there is a safe-space in the torrential seas of the Internet, despite what others have stated.
I'm here. I'm here when you need me. Always vigilant. Always united. A sanctuary for peace.
Thursday, February 27, 2014
Goal Setting for Depression and Anxiety with the Fun Activity Catalogue Is Not Culturallly Competent
I'm taking a "Depression & Anxiety Management" course offered by my healthcare provider ( Group Health Cooperative ), which is taught by trained/licensed mental healthcare professionals.
I was given this handout called:
Fun Activities Catalogue
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It lists various activities one finds as "WORK, LEISURE or SELF-CARE"
WORK are activities that you have to do and they're a part of life. Sometimes you dread doing them, but if you choose to not do it, you would.
LEISURE are activities that you love to do - recreational, etc. and you choose to do them.
SELF-CARE are activities you do to take care of yourself and generally enjoy doing them.
Sometimes there's a blur between LEISURE and SELF-CARE. These items intermingle.
When one is depressed from various reasons, they cannot see anything that gives them any pleasure. That is a sign of ANHEDONIA - lack of pleasure.
To build around that, find things on the list you love to do (LEISURE) and things you do for SELF-CARE and work on these items to set goals to achieve.
I asked the question about TRAUMA, but I didn't explain it in context due to the nature of the course and my first time being there. But this was in reference to the Zimmerman and Dunn cases: Black teenage boys, doing what they love to do, and some lunatic kills them for it. How can anyone set goals with having a fear of that?
The answer I got was not culturally competent.
I was told that you build small to build up your confidence, and explore down the line if you can redo some of the things you enjoy. It is setting yourself up for success.
Nice clinical textbook answer for those with privilege and agency. For those without that: Namely diverse groups that are under oppression due to bigotry, this nice sheet, "Fun Activity Catalogue" while helpful, needs reframing in context.
Can the tripartite system work for peoeple who have mental health condition as a seen as a biological issue? Yes.
Can it work when adding the layer of health disparities, most injustice, poverty and environment help with a "Fun Activity Catalogue"? A RESOUNDING NO!
Not if the answer is piecemeal out your fears to regain your confidence in doing something after a severely traumatic event - such that suffered by Trayvon Martin and Jordan Davis.
Sorry, but it is not. Professionals teaching this need to add context to it, or diverse populations are not going to do it.
Wednesday, December 11, 2013
"What Would You Do" Show and more Woman Bashing
Here is the video where a Black woman actress bashes a black man actor who is dating a white woman who is also an actress on the show called "What Would You Do".
We have been bamboozled. When does a Black woman vocalize how she feels about what a black man dates in public? She never, in a public setting behaves that "out of order". The actress what out of order for saying anything about a man's love interest. But in a set up the goal is to go over the top to make a bizarro point, which was???
The comments made are reserved in private, face to face with the parties involved, not for a "show" of power.
The people who got involved thought they were doing the "couple" a favor by putting the Black woman in check -- which means -- she was told to act crazy. It seems convincing, because the public who got involved actually allowed the mental breakdown of WOMEN!
Flat out - a woman does not attack another woman who is dating.
Shame on you "What Would You Do". Based on your show, ignoramuses abound will have grounds to hurt Black women more due to your casting - especially since you did not do the opposite: A white man taking his Black girlfriend to a shop and a white woman having a problem with it.
Haven't we had enough in woman bashing in the media?
We have been bamboozled. When does a Black woman vocalize how she feels about what a black man dates in public? She never, in a public setting behaves that "out of order". The actress what out of order for saying anything about a man's love interest. But in a set up the goal is to go over the top to make a bizarro point, which was???
The comments made are reserved in private, face to face with the parties involved, not for a "show" of power.
The people who got involved thought they were doing the "couple" a favor by putting the Black woman in check -- which means -- she was told to act crazy. It seems convincing, because the public who got involved actually allowed the mental breakdown of WOMEN!
Flat out - a woman does not attack another woman who is dating.
Shame on you "What Would You Do". Based on your show, ignoramuses abound will have grounds to hurt Black women more due to your casting - especially since you did not do the opposite: A white man taking his Black girlfriend to a shop and a white woman having a problem with it.
Haven't we had enough in woman bashing in the media?
Friday, November 15, 2013
EPISODE ALERT: "12 Years A Slave" Spoiler-Free Movie Review & Crazy Black Women
Just got back from the movie "12 Years A Slave" director by Steve McQueen, staring Chiwetel Ejoifor as the lead character named "Solomon Northrup".
The plot of this movie is partly based on a true story about "Solomon Northrup" who was duped, trapped and sold back into slavery in Mississppi to two plantations for 12 years. Later he wrote about his experiences and the writings still stand today.
In the movie, it goes through various images of what "freedom" looks like and what enslavement looks like, and manumission looks like. The main character encounters other slaves who often say they have accepted their lot in life, as if they deserve the inhumane treatment because God has turned His back on them.
There were big name, A-list actors in this movie: Chiwetel Ejoifor, Michael Fassbender, Benedict Cumberbatch, Brad Pitt, Lupita Nyang'O, Alfre Woodard, Sarah Paulson, Paul Dano, Paul Giamatti. An excellent cast.
The starkness of outlook was apparent with the cinematography. The only colorful displays were shown when strength returned to individuals. Or when mirth occurs in the plot.
In mental illness, a traumatic experience can cause one's brain to adapt to survive. When that trauma does not cease, the anger of suffering turns in on itself to a clinical depression. This clinical depression could not be acted upon by slaves until the last dying breath. The inhumane and demeaning nature of enslavement, by its very nature is mental anguish and there a paucity of modern health studies to understand its impact on African Americans, and the resiliency of their ancestors in the United States.
There were two women who dealt with their trauma in the only way they could and were forced to deny their pain because it was a nuisance to others. Not just the slave masters and their families, but others slaves. The callus nature that slaves developed was out of fear. A hollow look. This movie captured like a time machine of the faces of slaves just enduring it, like the mosses on the trees in Mississippi.
But what makes this movie bring to light that it is okay to be mentally ill as a slave and afterward, is treatment options were suicide or homicide. Death lead to freedom when people believed they had none.
It explains why many persons of African descent still hold onto a faith from a god not theirs. All that is left is the vaporous body that courses the blood to innervate the muscles to move. That is not freedom. That is barely survival. Whatever it is, it is crazy. No sane person could logically aspire to endure that and yet they did.
This movie captured it.
Some of the terms were colloquial and great use of the "N-word" in a period piece. Images to demean women using sexual prowess and rape. The viciousness of the Southern white woman who was the mistress of the house having to hold it together when they could not. Many typical things.
But in this movie, it showed life as it once was and how it all can be taken away, like the biblical "Benjamin".
To survive enslavement, Black women had to go crazy. In this movie Black women were beaten and humiliated equally to Black men during slavery. While this movie was about a man, it showed it was more about the women and how the brutality of enslavement essentially emasculated the males, and dehumanized the women - it left Black women as hollow shells of their former selves -- as voids -- waiting to be filled. Unfortunately, the filling was with more cruelty and seeking righteousness either get one killed, wanton to be killed, and sacrificing her body sexually.
In my opinion, Black Women were not blamed as a theme of this movie. It did show of Black men were ripped to shreds unable to act on anything to help Black Women. But this movie was not about physical or mental weaknesses. It was about mental instability and forcing oneself to be unstable in order to survive.
Did I like this movie. No. But I feel drawn to it. I cried in this movie in two parts. The one part where I cried had something to do with a fan fiction Iwrote with many similarities to the scene, and my writing group partners told me it was too violent. I didn't think what I wrote was violent, I felt it was truth. Those things did happen. But the issue is, one has to be crazy to accept a watered down, pansy version for white people to accept it and not be hurt by the facts...
The second part I cried in this movie was after a traumatic experience, the victim feels sorry for the actions that have happened to them. A similarity would be "Stockholm Syndrome". This individual would even defend the abuser justifying his or her torture as correct. This behavior is often seen in rape victims - the if I had not been wearing... When it is the rapist who has a power and control issue to dominate over a perceived victim, who is always powerless. Sadly, when it is done to children, the understanding of right from wrong is skewed.
Trauma such as these can affect the sexual organs, therefore these behaviors can be inherited and passed down the generations. As such, after 150 years the abolition of slavery and ~50 years of ending Jim Crow, it seems too much to expect that being mentally stable in a supremacist society this country was built upon would just dissipate in Black women, and Black men.
What "Solomon Northrup" would be called is "drapetomania". For any slave NOT to desire freedom and stay with brutality requires a certain level of craziness to occur and this movie captures it.
The question is, will this movie gain Oscar nods? It will get nominated. I want it to win. But I am not sure it will because, White America refuses this movie, and then Black America does, too but for different reasons. White America refuses it because there is no way it was that bad to slaves... It's not "Gone With The Wind" in the antebellum South. Black America does not like it due to "Slavery Movie Fatigue" and seeing what we already know, that racist White people are the worst.
Friday, November 8, 2013
UCLA Black Men Speak Out
In this spoken word, Sy Stokes discusses how he is not proud to be called a Bruin. It's really well done and states a statistic that UCLA won more championship games (143) than what the Black male freshman population (~43).
Here is my issue about how they feel. I'm tired of hearing the laments. In 1996 when most of California voted to destroy opportunities for diversity driven by the psychotic ramblings of an ignorant buffoon of a Black Man to bamboozled the University of California system. Now the only blacks left to make differences to our communities are athletes who are trying to leave the 'hood.
But the fact is, UCLA does not care about diversity and that will never change.
EPISODE ALERT: FDA Bans Crisco Trans-Fats & Why They Don't Give A Sh*t
It's been awhile since I've written anything. My blog is about mental health, but it is also about maintaining a healthy lifestyle, too. Because without it, achieving a mentally healthy outlook is very, very difficult.
Recently, the FDA announced it is banning trans-fats. What that means is any fat that is solid at room-temperature, like Crisco vegetable oil or partially hydrogenated vegetable oil which is from soybean oil, will no longer be in many processed foods we consume - chiefly, crackers, cookies and microwave popcorn. There are many others. It use to be that companies could make foods with less than 0.5 grams of trans-fat and could put on the food label as "no trans-fat". Now that is not allowed.
Here is the NPR radio show about this topic.
My mother asked me what I thought about the new rulings. I said, I don't really care. As a vegetarian and someone that actually does cook from scratch, the requirement for trans-fats would be minimal. I must say, I own Crisco products, they are very nice to bake with, but the way I make my foodstuffs, it does not taste as good as butter.
I tried explaining to my mother about how products made with trans-fats allowed them to have increased shelf-lives. That was good when food was scarce and many people starved. When foods could not be "kept" in refrigerators or were not abundant in markets like they are now in the US. Partially hydrogenated oil is what kept many people alive long enough to eat food.
However, from a molecular biological perspective, a starvation metabolism is still different from an metabolic syndrome metabolism. In times of food scarcity, the body latches on to any of the major macromolecules it can find as well as water. Any foodstuffs is better than no foodstuffs or prolonged lack of nutrition. Proteins play a major role in saving lives. What is fed to starving children is a product called "Plumpy'nut"
It is for severe malnutrition. It contains monounsaturated fats. It has a 2 year shelf-life and requires no food preparation.
It is made by a French company and it heals thousands of starving children in undeveloped countries and malnourished areas, as well as keeping them alive.
It is, the life-saver of children. Without some "trans-fat", these children would die.
A metabolic syndrome metabolism is about overeating all the major macromolecules to where key disease genes are unable to be regulated. Many of the diseases we love fall into this category: Obesity, Diabetes, Heart Disease and Stroke. The way to change metabolic syndrome is through physical fitness, eating fresh vegetables only, very little protein, no starch or carbohydrates and reducing stress through mindfulness meditation. Doing all these activities are very hard to do, many medications can help, but there are side effect. This is a first world problem.
Making our foodstuffs more natural would be nice. Who has the time? Not all natural foods are safe due to infections and chemical contamination. Having a natural lifestyle takes a lot of dedication, time, and motivation. When someone is suffering from mental illness, those thought processes are not even apparent.
After I told my mother all that, she said, "I don't want government telling me what I can and cannot eat..."
Actually, that got me to thinking. The reality is, the FDA takes trans-fats off the table in food who are the producers going to sell their products to? Well...
Recently, the FDA announced it is banning trans-fats. What that means is any fat that is solid at room-temperature, like Crisco vegetable oil or partially hydrogenated vegetable oil which is from soybean oil, will no longer be in many processed foods we consume - chiefly, crackers, cookies and microwave popcorn. There are many others. It use to be that companies could make foods with less than 0.5 grams of trans-fat and could put on the food label as "no trans-fat". Now that is not allowed.
Here is the NPR radio show about this topic.
My mother asked me what I thought about the new rulings. I said, I don't really care. As a vegetarian and someone that actually does cook from scratch, the requirement for trans-fats would be minimal. I must say, I own Crisco products, they are very nice to bake with, but the way I make my foodstuffs, it does not taste as good as butter.
I tried explaining to my mother about how products made with trans-fats allowed them to have increased shelf-lives. That was good when food was scarce and many people starved. When foods could not be "kept" in refrigerators or were not abundant in markets like they are now in the US. Partially hydrogenated oil is what kept many people alive long enough to eat food.
However, from a molecular biological perspective, a starvation metabolism is still different from an metabolic syndrome metabolism. In times of food scarcity, the body latches on to any of the major macromolecules it can find as well as water. Any foodstuffs is better than no foodstuffs or prolonged lack of nutrition. Proteins play a major role in saving lives. What is fed to starving children is a product called "Plumpy'nut"
It is for severe malnutrition. It contains monounsaturated fats. It has a 2 year shelf-life and requires no food preparation.It is made by a French company and it heals thousands of starving children in undeveloped countries and malnourished areas, as well as keeping them alive.
It is, the life-saver of children. Without some "trans-fat", these children would die.
A metabolic syndrome metabolism is about overeating all the major macromolecules to where key disease genes are unable to be regulated. Many of the diseases we love fall into this category: Obesity, Diabetes, Heart Disease and Stroke. The way to change metabolic syndrome is through physical fitness, eating fresh vegetables only, very little protein, no starch or carbohydrates and reducing stress through mindfulness meditation. Doing all these activities are very hard to do, many medications can help, but there are side effect. This is a first world problem.
Making our foodstuffs more natural would be nice. Who has the time? Not all natural foods are safe due to infections and chemical contamination. Having a natural lifestyle takes a lot of dedication, time, and motivation. When someone is suffering from mental illness, those thought processes are not even apparent.
Actually, that got me to thinking. The reality is, the FDA takes trans-fats off the table in food who are the producers going to sell their products to? Well...
My logic is the reason why the "trans-fat" food companies are not making a huge stink about the FDA ruling against it is, they are transitioning into the BIOFUEL market where that tub of Crisco once cost $2 - $3 now cost $20 - $30 dollars a pound to drive your vehicle. Crisco does not care. It isn't hard for the oil companies like Shell to speak to JM Smuckers about anything... And if you did not think they would do that, well... I have some nice beachfront property in Yuma, Arizona...
I'm going to buy all the little tubs of Crisco that I can and sell it...
Monday, July 29, 2013
RESPECT LEVELS THE PLAYING FIELD & NO WE'RE NOT RESPECTED
Saw this image on a Facebook friend's profile:
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| Age of Information Page
It got me thinking on the cavalier attitude sensed by this generation and younger who have never seen overt legally sanctioned white supremacist signs like these:
The entire civil rights movement and voting rights has now been wiped off the American Planet by the US Supreme Court that will return to a caste-system society in the "democracy and free world". There is a reason for that which is mainly economic, but it is not justice.
With the Zimmerman Trial verdicts, I remain quite other than to show my displeasure on this blog. I am vocal on Facebook which friendships have ended due to mentalities I do not want to manage or negotiate at this time. Some even close friends that I have know since childhood who call me angry because they are ignorant of how Facebook operates.
At any rate, I have posted a series of thoughtful enterprises for all to discuss based on these images.
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